And There's the Rub...
It's been a while since I blogged right off pure emotion. Straight from the heart...
You ever meet someone or enter a situation that seems to be really great, appears to be a good fit. Perhaps there are some issues with the person or the situation, but for the most part things look pretty good. Then, as sure as it will eventually rain, you find the one difficulty in the situation, the point where things begin to unravel. There's the rub, ladies and gents.
See that one thing isn't just the one thing because it leads to other things. You may have an employer who has a habit of saying things construed as rude. Unchecked those comments will ultimately become offensive and may even cross the lines of human decency. You may have a friend who does not understand social cues, and often says things that are weird and simply not appropriate at given times. Unchecked this friend could begin creating uncomfortable situations for you and the company you may keep. You may live with someone who is a little OCD when it comes to keeping things clean or constantly has company, and they may make you feel like you are walking on pins and needles in your own living space. Unchecked you may begin to feel uncomfortable and restricted to specific places within your house.
See when you find the "rub", you have to make a critical decision in terms of what you can tolerate and what you will not tolerate. You have to decide is it time to cut your losses and find a better situation, or do you follow the path and see where it goes. The older I get the more my patience increases for the simple things waiting for food at a restaurant, sitting through a bad movie, even tolerating a boring person; however, my patience has decreased for people's actions that make me feel uncomfortable or unwelcome. If I have a boss who is going to say offensive things, it is time to find a new job. If I have a friend who makes people uncomfortable it is time to find a new friend or never hang out with them in the presence of others. If the person I live with is making me feel limited to my bedroom then it is time to move.
The same rationale goes for relationships. You may think you are dating someone great, and then a small thing occurs. There's the rub...most times in the context of the relationship it is something you could forgive in light of the balance of things. Or it is something you both can discuss and agree to make changes on. Then there is something at the core of them as a person something that cannot be changed, or something they may be unwilling to change. In which case a critical decision needs to be made, do you keep with it, in spite of the chances it will unravel, or do you cut your losses?
You ever meet someone or enter a situation that seems to be really great, appears to be a good fit. Perhaps there are some issues with the person or the situation, but for the most part things look pretty good. Then, as sure as it will eventually rain, you find the one difficulty in the situation, the point where things begin to unravel. There's the rub, ladies and gents.
See that one thing isn't just the one thing because it leads to other things. You may have an employer who has a habit of saying things construed as rude. Unchecked those comments will ultimately become offensive and may even cross the lines of human decency. You may have a friend who does not understand social cues, and often says things that are weird and simply not appropriate at given times. Unchecked this friend could begin creating uncomfortable situations for you and the company you may keep. You may live with someone who is a little OCD when it comes to keeping things clean or constantly has company, and they may make you feel like you are walking on pins and needles in your own living space. Unchecked you may begin to feel uncomfortable and restricted to specific places within your house.
See when you find the "rub", you have to make a critical decision in terms of what you can tolerate and what you will not tolerate. You have to decide is it time to cut your losses and find a better situation, or do you follow the path and see where it goes. The older I get the more my patience increases for the simple things waiting for food at a restaurant, sitting through a bad movie, even tolerating a boring person; however, my patience has decreased for people's actions that make me feel uncomfortable or unwelcome. If I have a boss who is going to say offensive things, it is time to find a new job. If I have a friend who makes people uncomfortable it is time to find a new friend or never hang out with them in the presence of others. If the person I live with is making me feel limited to my bedroom then it is time to move.
The same rationale goes for relationships. You may think you are dating someone great, and then a small thing occurs. There's the rub...most times in the context of the relationship it is something you could forgive in light of the balance of things. Or it is something you both can discuss and agree to make changes on. Then there is something at the core of them as a person something that cannot be changed, or something they may be unwilling to change. In which case a critical decision needs to be made, do you keep with it, in spite of the chances it will unravel, or do you cut your losses?
posted by K. Jobe | 21:55
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